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Three Elephants Blocking Our Healing ☥ Part III

Writer's picture: ©Dr. Phyllis SHU Hubbard©Dr. Phyllis SHU Hubbard

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The University Years 


The College Boy  

When I was in college, I remember being the only Black person in my screenwriting class. For one particular activity, we submitted a short scene which our professor, who was white, read aloud without revealing who wrote the story. When my story (which was about a wealthy woman living in a Victorian style home) was read, the class went wild and kept trying to figure out who wrote it, but not one person in the class looked at me. It was as if I were invisible. There was a moment when my professor silently caught my eyes and shamefully shook her head. I found it interesting that, while I did not specifically identify the race of the woman in my story, the students assumed that she was a white woman.  

 


White male college student reading a book


At one point, I noticed that my professor seemed to be stalling. She kept shifting in her seat and shuffling papers as if attempting to avoid reading one of the stories. She then took a breath and, reluctantly, read another story that was about a Black female who was enslaved. When I heard the story, I could understand why my professor did not want to read it. The character was so flat and the story was so ridiculously inaccurate (and thoroughly insulting), I could barely believe my ears. When she finished reading the story, the room went dead silent, and I soon realized that the students thought I had written it! Suddenly, a white male student proudly broke the uncomfortable silence and the rule of not revealing himself.  

 

Perhaps I was too unaware to have made the connection in my youth, but in this moment I realized how little white people knew about Black People, but how much I knew about white culture. The college boy's story revealed a lack of cultural competence  and an abundance of willful ignorance  that was astounding to me. I waited until everyone left before approaching my extremely embarrassed professor, and before I could say anything, she lifted one hand in the air to pause me and said, "Sometimes, I'm so ashamed of my people." We both laughed out loud in disbelief and were able to have the kind of healthy discussion about race that seeks understanding over shaming. 

 


Harriet Jacobs, author of "Incidents in the Life of Slave Girl," published in 1861. 
Harriet Jacobs, author of "Incidents in the Life of Slave Girl," published in 1861. 

 

The Fired Professor 

In another one of my college courses, half of the white students dropped our literature class because the professor, who was white, insisted on including one Black author in our list of books to read about the Reconstruction era. Because the Reconstruction era (1865-1877) was the period following the Civil War, I’m not sure how a Reconstruction era course could omit Black authors and be accurately taught. The white students who chose to stay in the course were absolutely moved by the book (“Incidents in the Life of a Slave Girl” by Harriet Jacobs) and were surprised/amazed that they could relate to it. I read books whether or not I thought that I could relate to them. I remember sitting in class bitterly thinking that I can’t "relate" to being a white man with a peg leg or sleeping with a religious minister but I read “Moby Dick” and “The Scarlet Letter” without protest.  

 

 

One white woman in the class said she was so absorbed into the story that she forgot she was reading aBlack’story and just saw it as a ‘human’story.  

 



Elephant

 



In that moment, I realized that, either consciously or unconsciously, white people still did not recognize Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant People as humans. I reflected on my high school experiences and began to have a deeper understanding about racial dynamics. We still haven't healed from the legacy of slavery because we refuse to look at these elephants in our rooms.  

 

Unfortunately, the white students who dropped the class complained so much that the professor (who was truly an outstanding educator) was fired after that semester. I was

appalled by the power of these students to rid themselves of one of the best literature teachers that I had at that university. I’m not sure why, but up until this moment, I hadn’t considered that an American person could be in their early twenties and had never read one book by a Black person (or any other ethnicity).  

 

 

Elephant#1: Will we become humbly honest with ourselves, recognize, take responsibility for and seek to overcome our own levels of deep ignorance?     ☥ Dr. Phyllis SHU Hubbard ☥ 

 

 

The Professional World 

 

The hills of Iceland
The hills of Iceland

The Icelandic Flight Attendant 

My sibling-cousin, who happens to be Black ☥ German, invited me to visit him while he lived in Denmark. His sister had previously invited me to visit her while she was working and living in China, but I procrastinated so much that she was gone before I could get my act together. For this reason, I wanted to make sure that I made it to Denmark while he was still there. Because he worked with Icelandair at the time, he recommended that I do the traditional stopover in Iceland before heading to Denmark (to promote tourism, flights on Icelandair land first in Reykjavík allowing you to stop over for free). At first, I wondered how a Black woman might be treated there, but since my cousin had previously lived there, I felt confident about taking the trip. I was treated wonderfully.  

 

While in Iceland, I met a Flight Attendant who initiated a conversation with me after noticing that I was thoroughly engrossed in reading “The House of the Spirits: A Novel” by Latin American author, Isabel Allende. We shared our love for Allende's work. She told me that the people of Iceland endeavored to be well read, particularly when it comes to learning about other cultures because Iceland is so isolated from the rest of the world. I talked to her about the brilliance of my favorite author Octavia Butler and we discussed authors of other ethnicities.  

 



Icelandic horses
Icelandic horses

  

 

The level of conversation that I had with her was superior to conversations that I have had with white people in America. She humanized me because she took the time to learn about other cultures. This delicious experience wasn’t quite enough to tempt me to move to Iceland, but I have to admit that every time I leave the US, I wonder why I return because, even though racism exists everywhere, I have felt safer and have been treated better in other countries.  

 

There is a deeper issue here that we need to contemplate. Other countries are in competition with America. A way for them to extract talent and information is to treat Black ☥ Indigenous People better than they are treated in America. We’ll eventually explore this dynamic in a future post.  




Our Indigenous brothers and sisters are visible, revered and here to stay.

 

  

Indigenous, Invisible And Smoke Signals 

Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant People do not feel seen or understood. I listened to a young Navajo male speak on a panel once. My heart broke when I heard him say, "We just want to be seen." I attended a conference for Indigenous People and heard a Lakota poet say that when her Uber driver asked her where she was from and she told him, he replied, "I didn't think that there were any more Native Americans left." While searching for images for this post, I typed "Native American" into one particular image bank search bar and got over 10 images of football teams.  

 

 

The Beauty Of Cultural Exploration 

Having had the awesome privilege of being heavily exposed to many cultures such as, but certainly not limited to African, Latinx, Caribbean, Indian/Asian/Pacific Islander, German, Jewish and Italian culture in my early years, cultural exposure and celebration has been essential for the wellness of my soul.  

 

 


 

I'm so grateful for unapologetically Asian art, food and films such as Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. My favorite wedding film, Monsoon Wedding, offers a beautiful glimpse into Punjabi culture, and I still listen to and love its phenomenal soundtrack. Powerful offerings that have spiraled me into deep thought such as La Mission, In Search of Voodoo: Roots to Heaven, Quilombo, The Nephew, Brother to Brother, The Return(please watch all credits and interviews with the actors), Latin History for Morons, Dirty Pretty Things, The Joy Luck Club, Like Water for Chocolate, Smoke Signals, A Warm December, Photographing Fairies, Life is Beautiful and The Secret of Roan Inish represent a tiny taste of culture, insights and healing that we can explore. Still a lover of animation, the stories of Kirikou and the Sorceress (African animation from France), Bino and Fino (Nigeria) and Coco (US) are among my all-time favorites.  

 

 

Certainly Trevor Noah's work is a true gift to humankind. ‘Born a Crime’ is an exceptional gift to Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant People (BIIP) because it masterfully demonstrates how to acknowledge and look deeply into our pain while at the same time laughing through it (healing at its finest).  

 


Elephant walking

 

 

Sharing with and learning about other cultures has expanded my perceptions and made me a better person in every way. I am deeply humbled by how much I do not know and will spend the rest of my life endeavoring to become less and less culturally ignorant. 

 

 

Elephant#2: Will we choose to learn about and celebrate other cultures to reduce our level of ignorance, cause us to question and correct our fallacies/biases and create a healthier ecosystem for all people?     ☥ Dr. Phyllis SHU Hubbard  

 


Hello written on a blackboard in many languages
ॐ Sergio Mendes ☥ 

 


Overcoming Fear, Ignorance And Oppression 

Racism is fueled by cultural incompetence and willful ignorance. People are afraid of what they do not know, yet these same people are unwilling to pursue understanding (as was demonstrated by the killing of my interviews in the white publications). What are we afraid that we will discover? Do white people fear annihilation? If so, they can drop that irrational fear because resorting to that type of violence would require us to lower our level of consciousness and sacrifice our humanity. It would behoove white people who share that fear to study A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose. I recommend studying that book (for all ethnicities) because it cannot be understood through reading alone. It requires active contemplative thought and time to examine and question our thoughts and behaviors. I listen to the audio book at least twice every year and continually gain new insights as I evolve and grow. Understanding the pain body and the ego as broken down in that book would eliminate irrational fears that white people may have.  


For many other reasons, I would also recommend that Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant People (BIIP) study Life Visioning: A Transformative Process for Activating Your Unique Gifts and Highest Potential. This book includes specific instructions and demonstrations that help BIIP detox oppressive programming and rebalance our mind and emotions. For the same reasons that I stated above, I revisit this masterful work each year as well. 

 


African man smiling

 

 A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.                                                                                                                                   African Proverb ☥ 

 

 

Will We Talk About It? 

I'm certainly not attempting to speak for all Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant People, but I can generally say that we aren't interested in subjecting white people to tit for tat style repercussions. We are not interested in corrupting ourselves by inflicting pain so that we can make ourselves feel like we are better than white people. We don't want white people to suffer. We want white people to heal so that they can stop taking actions that cause the rest of us to suffer. We certainly are not moved by the tears of white people, unless those tears transform into healthy and right actions. We want white people to stop putting systems and structures in place that prevent BIIP from thriving. We are arguing over who gets the glass of water in front of us when there is an ocean of water behind us. We have to heal from zero-sum ideology and understand that the world is abundant and thrives on variation.  


The recent racist attacks in the news are nothing new to BIIP. The advent of cell phones and social media has made it more difficult to ignore what we have had to endure. Now that we have society’s attention, perhaps we can look within and critique ourselves without judgment so that the healing can begin.  

 



Elephant walking in the sunset

 

 

Elephant#3: Will we acquire, understand and consistently use language that heals?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     ☥ Dr. Phyllis SHU Hubbard ☥  

 

 

 

Co-creating Affirmative Language 

Let’s take the words “diversity” and “minority” as an example. The word “diversity” has the energy of “divide” in it so why would we use that word to inspire inclusion? The word “minority” has the word “minor” in it. If we took the countries of the world and put them inside the continent of Africa, there would still be more Africa.  

 

 

We are people, of the mighty, mighty people of the sun. In our heart lies all the answers to the truth you can't run from.                                                                                ☥                                                                                                            ☥ Earth ☥ Wind ☥ Fire ☥ 

 


The true size of Africa (source Kai Krause)

Source: ☥ Kai Krause ☥ "The True Size of Africa" http://kai.sub.blue/en/africa.html 



 

Africa is 11.7 million square miles (the surface of our moon is 14 million square miles) which is much larger than the U.S.A. (3.7 million square miles) and Europe (4.006 million square miles). The cannon was an instrument of war that decimated Africa. It is much easier for a mouse to protect itself than an elephant, because the mouse can move faster and has more places to hide. The size and climate of Africa made it incredibly vulnerable to invaders. Yet, even though colonizers have killed (and continue to covertly destroy/reprogram) hundreds of millions of Africans, we still far outnumber them. Nature will not allow them to catch up (i.e. suicide rates, drug use, etc.), and at this point, colonizers have killed so many of our ancestors that they cannot go to the beach without avoiding direct contact with murdered Africans through the sand they squeeze between their toes (energy doesn't disappear, but it does change form). For this and many other reasons, I do not refer to myself as a "minority." Nor do I consider any of my brothers and sisters from other ethnicities to be a “minority.” We insist on using these words to describe Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant People while using words like “supreme” (i.e. supremacy) or  “privilege” to describe white people. We must find words to describe people that are not demoralizing and minimizing. It is just as damaging to overstate who we are as it is to understate who we are as a people.  

 



Decorative face masks


Does Racism Benefit Anyone?



White People And Suicide

We don't talk about it or seem to recognize a connection, but white men aged 25-64 are twice as likely to commit suicide than men of every other ethnic group (except Indigenous men). As a group, white Americans have higher suicide rates than most other ethnicities (Source: CDC). Does the need for superiority actually contribute to the fulfillment of white people? Are they willing to learn how to cultivate honesty ☥ integrity  benevolence ☥ cultural competence? Can they learn how to be happy and fulfilled without lying, cheating, stealing, raping, pillaging and killing? Whether we want to admit it or not, we are on this planet together and if we refuse to cleanse ourselves and take these elephants seriously, in one way or another, we will suffer.




Asian woman in a hot tub



A Few Ways To Unblock Our Healing


Actively Engage In Self-Awareness Love Empowerment 

Take the time to learn more about your family, ancestry, history and culture. It’s true that some of your history will not be positive. I had a client who found out that her father was a Nazi who had committed terrible crimes. She hated anything German. As I considered healing strategies for her, I silently thought about the irony of having both German and Jewish ancestry. I had to remind her that while the past cannot be changed, the actions that she takes today could change her present and future.


I worked diligently with her to redirect her anger and shame away from "anything German" into positive actions that heal. Thanks to my family, my growing understanding of German culture helped me to quickly locate some German traditions that she could embrace and accept as a part of her healing process. I utilized my connections at the local Jewish Community Center to find ways for her to do good work in their community and learn about Jewish culture which enriched her life. She was able to heal and offer herself in service to the Jewish community because she faced and healed her past. The more you learn about yourself, the more you are able to face and take actions to heal what hurts so that you can create the space to love yourself and others. She is no longer haunted and tormented by her inherited past.




Flamenco dancer
Experience Flamenco


The Journey To And Work Of Loving Yourself

The more you love yourself, the less you’ll be triggered by other people’s actions which allows you to engage in contemplative thought and respond with heightened awareness to the events of the outside world. The Black and Latinx populations share similar histories:

☥ We suffered a historic catastrophic event which included ongoing violence, rape, cross       breeding and pillage causing the altering of more than 20% of our genetic makeup and       creating a new hybrid race of people currently identified as:

     ☥ Black, which is comprised of approximately 70-80% African + 20-30% European

         blend or a combination of European and Indigenous blends. Many Black People in

         the US have no idea what tribes make up their African ancestry and their languages

         have been erased. My family had hundreds of acres of land that was passed down

         to us and lost to predatory gentrification. One of the new landowners will allow us

         on to the property to visit/tend a small slave cemetery where our ancestors are

         buried, but we have no real way of preventing it from being destroyed.  







    Latinx, which is primarily comprised of approximately 50% Indigenous + 25%

         African + 25% European blend (mostly from Spain). Many Latinx people, that I

         have surveyed, are under the impression that their ancestry is mostly (more than

         60%) Spanish. While true for a minuscule percentage of their population, this

         fallacy has caused a disassociation with their roots as many have no idea that

         they are Indigenous, what tribes make up their ancestry and their languages

         have been erased. Like Black People, they desire affirmation of and reconnection to

         their identity. I once spoke with a Latinx leader who said something that put my own

         pain around my African ancestry in perspective. He said, "You may not know exactly

         where to go, but at least you have Africa to go back to. Our ruins and historic

         structures have been destroyed and our land has been abducted. Where can we go

         to reconnect with our ancestors and heal?"







         Black Latinx, which is mainly comprised of 70-80% African + 20-30% Spanish

              blend or a combination of Spanish and Indigenous blends. I spent my college

              and early working years in Miami and got a crash course on the complexities of

              being Black Latinx. Black Americans, who have never traveled outside of the

              U.S. and grapple with their own overwhelming issues of oppression, tend to run

              on protective autopilot and withhold trust unless Black Latinx people conform to

              being "Black enough" for acceptance. Even some Black Americans who have

              traveled extensively struggle to crack this complicated code without a deep

              understanding of the secret complexities of racial dynamics and its global

              applications (another topic best reserved for a book).  







Imagine that you and your family were kidnapped. Your sister was taken to Cuba, your brother was taken to Haiti, your mother, who was pregnant at the time, was taken to Brazil and you were brought to the US. No one knows what happened to your father. If by some miracle you were reunited a year later, how excited would you be to see them? Now imagine that you find yourself sitting at a table with people who are Cuban, Haitian and Brazilian. Do you become uncomfortable when they begin to speak Spanish, French or Portuguese even though all of them also speak English? You haven’t learned their language and discovered that they don’t celebrate some of your holidays. How do you feel about them? Are your feelings yours or are they a product of social conditioning? If we are serious about healing, we have to question our thoughts and change our behaviors to reflect the benevolence that exists within the truest part of ourselves.


Let’s look at the common denominator of difference between some Black cultures:

☥ Black Cuban - abducted from Africa, colonized by the Spanish and forced to

    speak/adopt Spanish language/culture

☥ Black Haitian - abducted from Africa, colonized by the French and forced to

    speak/adopt French language/culture

☥ Black Brazilian - abducted from Africa, colonized by the Portuguese and forced to

    speak/adopt Portuguese language/culture

☥ Black American - abducted from Africa, colonized by the British and forced to

    speak/adopt English language/culture



To learn more about why we tend to "forget" about the common denominator that connects us, study the following blogs:

Journey To The Dream (social programming)

Discernment Wisdom Of Our Chakras (third eye discernment)

Journey To Radiance Sankofa (mind defragmentation)

How To Outsmart Our Monkey Mind (understanding how our mind works/gets

programmed/how to break free of mental manipulation)



My own personal research, and conversations with Black ☥ Indigenous ☥ Immigrant (BII) psychologists who have traveled extensively throughout Africa/around the world, revealed that we fail to recognize that BII people from around the world have been colonized differently (including/within each country) and are isolated from these complicated dynamics so that we run in circles competing, pulling rank and distrusting each other instead of zooming out to see the common threads that connect us so that we can understand each other and cultivate community, real trust and healing.


A few other commonalities include:

        ☥ We were pitted against each other (i.e. through rape, the creation of and

             preference given to lighter skin tones), forced into acquiescence to all aspects of

             european culture, suffered through the mass abduction of our resources, etc.

        ☥ We were forced to adopt another culture's religion which was altered and

             deliberately used to psychologically brainwash, manipulate, suppress and control

             behaviors.

       ☥ We were forced to forget our indigenous languages and exclusively speak another              culture’s language until our own indigenous languages were forgotten/lost and we

            were forced to subscribe to european naming conventions.




Biracial man practicing meditation



Because of these commonalities, I refrain from assuming that I understand people of other ethnicities or even my own ethnicity. I've lost so much of my own history. I am still attempting to understand who I am while mourning/having to accept my e uropean ancestry which represents a complicated path to healing. I know that I must heal, transmute, integrate, love and accept all of who I am even though I carry ancestry from a culture that dehumanizes and often despises me. This process must include cleansing my european ancestry by forgiving them and releasing the pain that they caused to my African ancestry so that ancestral trauma is not passed down to future generations. If I don't heal, I risk psychologically destroying myself from the inside out (something for us to consider the next time we see a mentally ill homeless ethnic person roaming the streets). At the same time, I must also continually practice self-care ☥ self-defense to protect myself from further harm caused by colonizers and co-create a better world by advocating for isonomy. Therapeutic movement and healing music has been my saving grace, and though I have much to learn about other cultures, I am committed to lifelong learning, exploration and engaging in practices such as walking in IRE.







In Brazil A Black Eldorado grew In Brazil When freedom's sun flashed through There glowed A light divine, Ọlọrun's fiery sun It showed Utopia, one for all and all for one Quilombo                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         From The Soundtrack Of The Movie ☥ Quilombo ☥



The ignorance that I seek to overcome is as real and runs as deep as the love I feel for humankind. We cannot love ourselves or others by remaining stagnant and refusing to grow. I actively and humbly seek to discover the truth about myself and about other cultures (regardless of how painful that truth may be to face). Even though I have been completely immersed in white culture since early childhood, (which is tantamount to eating vanilla ice cream for breakfast, lunch, dinner and all my snacks while watching TV, movies, listening to the radio and reading about vanilla ice cream all day/every day) I still continually question my views of white people, actively resist judgment and seek understanding to hold myself accountable to potential biases and fallacies. For this reason, I was especially annoyed by the college boy who didn't bother to understand even a little bit about Black history/culture before writing a story about us.







Ignoring It Will Not Heal It Or Make It Disappear

We cannot heal what we refuse to acknowledge. As an American, I am appalled, embarrassed and humiliated by our Declaration of Independence which refers to Indigenous people as "Indian Savages," yet conventional society still refuses to acknowledge that America was founded upon and deeply rooted in racism. In 1776, my ancestors were still enslaved so whose freedom do we celebrate on the 4th of July? Why won't we acknowledge the fact that my ancestors were a major funder for the freedom of white people and paid dearly with their blood, sweat, tears and free labor? How do we heal as a society if we are completely unwilling to acknowledge and cleanse ourselves and our past? 







If we do not continually question and challenge our beliefs, we will not evolve personally or as a society.



A street in Japan
Explore the beauty of Asia, like this street in Japan.


A Few Ways To Unblock Our Healing (continued)


When You Wake Up In The Morning Check In With Yourself First

Refuse to allow someone or something outside of yourself to be your first point of contact for your day. Instead, spend a few moments in gratitude for another day and for the opportunity to do your part to make this world a better place. Then, take a few slow deep breaths. This type of exercise brings you into the present moment and in touch with your true self.




Indian man playing tabla drums
Enjoy the rich, soothing sounds of the Indian tabla.




Refrain From Engaging In Disturbing Activities At Least 60 Minutes Before Bedtime

The news consistently places its focus on issues that represent the lowest common denominators of our society and repeats it constantly throughout the day to increase their ratings (i.e. "breaking news" only happens once). Try skipping the news for a day and see if you truly missed anything of importance.




Black man praying
"Are we so different? At our essence, we all want the same things in life. If I look deeply enough, I will see myself in you and you in me." ☥ Dr. Phyllis SHU Hubbard ☥



Make a habit of breathing and pausing before speaking or acting. Resist the temptation to be seduced into knee-jerk reactions.



Take the time to practice self-awareness and self-control through breathing exercises and practices such as Qigong, meditation and Yoga (or some other contemplative practice that nourishes you). These practices allow you to digest what is happening in the outside world (that may be awakening something painful inside of you) and help you to distance yourself and watch it from a place of detachment and stoicism until you are able to process the emotions, find balance within yourself and respond with awareness.




It means buckle your seatbelt, Dorothy, 'cause Kansas is going bye-bye.                      Cypher - From The Movie, 'The Matrix'



Close up picture of an elephant's face
"Welcome to the real world." ☥ Morpheus ☥ From The Movie, "The Matrix"



In The Real World ...

Choosing to read this entire blog is a test - a sort of rite of passage. If you've made it this far, please know that I recognize you may have found this blog to be unsettling. If so, congratulations! I applaud you for hanging in there and beginning/deepening your beautiful process of spiritual awareness. With open eyes seeing the truth and an open heart, the work of healing our world can begin ... with the healing of ourselves.




Will we face the elephant(s) in our room(s)?






There can be no growth inside your comfort zone.






God is in the rain.                                                                                                                              ☥ Evey ☥ From The Movie 'V Is For Vendetta'


Three Elephants ☥ Acknowledged → Process To Healing

I invite you to continually question your beliefs and sit with the discomfort that you may be feeling in silence for at least a few minutes each day. Some days/seasons will be more challenging than others, but if you continue to cleanse yourself and stay the course through the peaks and valleys, you will tap into a tranquil state of deep peace within you. You may even find that you'll laugh out loud when you come to realize the simplicity of what you thought was so complicated.









Wake Up ☥ Be Well ☥ Be Radiant







Epilogue ☥ Your Treasure Map For Self-Care 


Mother and daughter with a map


The content within this blog explores the following questions
Click on this image to magnify ☥ guide your process.

Thank you for taking the time to actively engage in your own self-care. If you have ever spent time at a hammam ☥ steam room ☥ sauna, you will notice that it is a comfortable space because you are wearing minimal or no clothing and you can just be yourself. However, after a short time, it starts to get hot, and you begin to sweat.



This is a good thing because you are helping your body to eliminate toxins. If you want to detoxify your body correctly you will:

☥ Breathe slowly and deeply to help your body adjust to the intensity of the heat.

☥ Sip water every 15 minutes to stay hydrated.

☥ Have a piece of fruit ☥ pumpkin seeds ☥ favorite healthy snack available.

☥ Take a shower after excessive sweating.

☥ Go into a cold room/take a cold plunge/cold water rinse off to cool down before doing

    another sweat and to stimulate your lymphatic system.

☥ Go for a walk in nature, spend time in meditation ☥ contemplation, have a healthy meal

     and give your body some time to complete the healing process (which could include

     sending you messages through your intuition about your next steps).


As you journey through ☥ interact with the blogs ☥ other content on phyllishubbard.com, you might have an insight that causes you to suddenly feel mentally ☥ emotionally “hot” -- which could show up as:

☥ “Ah-ha” moments

☥ A hop-in-the-bed-and-cry-yourself-to-sleep or fetal position crying time of intensive

    self-care

☥ Intense feelings of anger/regret about something in your past

☥ Disorientation caused by the realization of truth

Strong reactions such as heightened senses, vomiting; an urge to release emotions

    such as yelling/screaming, going outside for fresh air/to take a walk, punching a

    boxing bag/pillow; a feeling of tightness in the chest, etc.

 



A sign that says, "Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations."



If you find yourself having a strong reaction, I encourage you to flow with it while helping your body to release mental ☥ emotional toxins by using the same five self-care strategies listed above for releasing physical toxins. Your body talks to you all the time, but unconscious adherence to social conditioning can mute its messages.


Strong reactions are your body’s way of letting you know that there is a deeper issue requiring your attention.

Keep revisiting the content ☥ utilizing the five self-care strategies until you no longer experience the strong reaction, release fears and have identified ☥ transformed ☥ removed the root cause of the issue. You will find additional strategies throughout this website that you can add to your mental health self-care toolkit.



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☥ Pharaoh Menkaure Of The Fourth Dynasty (Age Of The Pyramids ☥ 2700–2200 BC) ☥
☥ Ma'at ☥ Goddess Of Truth ☥ Justice ☥ Cosmic Order ☥
☥ Auset ☥ Goddess Of Alchemy ☥ The Body Whisperer Extraordinaire ☥
☥ Ausar ☥ God Of Transformation ☥ Our Ancestors ☥
☥ Hathor ☥ Goddess of Love ☥ Pharaoh Menkaure ☥ Bat ☥ Goddess of Interdependent Opposites ☥
☥ Sekhmet ☥ Warrior Goddess ☥ Goddess Of Healing ☥
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